Your parents are a big part of who you are and can be eager to want to help you get ready for arguably one of the biggest days of your life. To help you figure out what you can ask your parents to do, here are 6 of our favorite mother and father of the bride duties from WeddingWire's Wedding Trends Expert, Anne Chertoff.
November 16, 2017
1. Make the in-laws feel welcome
Whether or not the in-laws have met one another, it’s a nice and welcoming gesture to invite them to dinner, along with the grandparents and other children so both families can get to know one another better. The father and mother of the bride can host the dinner in their home or at a restaurant and it can be as formal or as laid-back as they like. Ideally, the get-together should be scheduled within four to six weeks from when the couple got engaged.
2. Plan and host an engagement party
The parents of the bride traditionally host an engagement party for the happy couple, if the couple wants one. As the host they’re in charge of booking the venue and vendors, organizing the guest list, ordering the invitation and overseeing all the other details, including making a speech or a toast at the party, greeting guests, and paying the bills.
3. Go wedding dress shopping with the bride
Mom has probably been dreaming of shopping with her daughter for her wedding dress long before she has, and this once-in-a-lifetime experience is something she won’t want to miss. The mother of the bride should ask her daughter if she wants her to schedule appointments, and plan a fun-filled weekend of brunch, shopping and celebratory drinks after she finds the one. While at the salon, mom should be supportive but honest. If the bride and her mom don’t live near each other, ask the salon if mom can FaceTime in to see her daughter trying on dresses or have pictures emailed to her. Another option is for the bride to go shopping and narrow down the final dress possibilities and for mom to come in for the final wedding dress appointment.
4. Seek out family heirlooms
Let the bride know if there is a veil, garter or jewelry she may want to wear as her something old or something borrowed, such as a grandmother’s veil or an aunt’s earrings. If mom’s wedding dress or a grandmother’s is available, the bride may want to consider wearing it or incorporating part of it into her wedding-day look.
5. Dad should dress to complement the groom and groomsmen
The father of the bride should try on and be willing to wear the suit or tux that the couple has selected. As the father of the bride, and not a groomsmen, his look should slightly differ by changing up his accessories.
6. Plan the rehearsal dinner
If the father of the groom and the mother of the groom don’t offer to host the rehearsal dinner, then the father of the bride and mother of the bride can add it to their list of wedding duties. At the rehearsal dinner, they should make a speech, which can be longer than a wedding toast, and include welcoming the groom and his family into theirs.
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What did your parents do to help you plan and prepare for your wedding that you appreciated?