It's important to me to start every day in gratitude by taking a few minutes for myself each morning, before I put on any of the other hats that moms wear throughout the day. Each morning before the baby wakes up I spend some time quietly enjoying my cup of coffee, writing in my Tom Ferry Gratitude Journal, and take notes on an episode of the 7 Good Minutes podcast. I tend to write about a page per episode, but one last week with Tony Robbins called "How To Make A Life-Changing Decision: 5 Fundamentals That Aren’t Being Taught Anywhere", really had me inspired and I wrote over three pages!
The message was so powerful and so relatable with everything going on in the world that I felt pulled to share it with you guys.
If you don't know who Tony Robbins is, he's a an energetic and inspiring motivational speaker, philanthropist, and life coach who's impacted millions of lives with his talks on overcoming fear and uncertainty to live your life in a "beautiful state". He has a great message that addresses all of the chaos and turmoil our country is experiencing right now. You can hear him share his thoughts on how we can all benefit from being "conscious of your power and remind yourself and all those around you the human race is resilient, flexible, and strong beyond imagination" and you can read that here.
In this episode, Tony calls attention to a new way of looking at what we experience. Rather than focusing on what is happening us, he wants to challenge us to look at the meaning behind what's happening. He's says, "Do not try to change what happened. Instead, figure out what you’re going to do with it...When you come up with a new meaning, you get a new life." What does this mean for you in your life right now?
Tony believes if we choose what we focus on, decide what it really means, and then choose what to do about it, we can use our power of choice to make real and long-lasting changes that everyone can enjoy.
This really resonated with me! I believe we're all able to influence our destiny and that the decisions we make everyday can and will directly affect that future. Like Tony, I also believe that our Power of Choice is the number one force that will control the quality of our lives. It's not what happens to us that matters, but what we do with it that matters.
I think no matter your spiritual or religious beliefs, we might all agree that decisions are powerful tools. We can shape our own reality and, because we are connected with everything and everyone around us, our decisions influence those around us. Not making a decision is as powerful as making one. I know that if I take that power for granted and don't make decisions responsibly, I can will have a negative impact on not just myself, but also the friends, family, co-workers, neighbors and my community.
There are a lot of things happening right now and many different ways that we can perceive them. There are various motives for people's actions and reactions and everyone seems to have an opinion on why it's happening and who's at fault. There is no doubt a very complex and deeply rooted issue and there is no easy way to navigate through this. Our unique life experiences become the story we have about how life is (for everyone else as well) and becomes our reference for explaining the world around us. "This understanding of the condition is unique to you and therefor not appropriate for providing a solution that will work for everyone."
In my very humble opinion, we can change the world by taking this responsibility more seriously and considering what to focus on (love), what things mean, and being the individual drivers of change on the conditions to make the world a better place. I teach my children that the most important things in life are love, kindness, and self-respect. I believe we can limit and heal many of society's issues if we focus on our values and work within what we can control - ourselves.
I don't ever want to come off like I have the answers to life's challenges, but I will always feel pulled to share what I'm learning on my life's journey that may, or may not, be helpful for the people I love and care about.
Like Tony says, "Is this the end right now, or the beginning?...If you want to change anything in your life, you have to change yourself first." I am so grateful to have access to these and other resources that challenge me to think outside of my personal story and so I can nurture and design my own story!
“First we make our decision, then our decision makes us.”
- Clyde Lee Dennis
Listen to the 7 Good Minutes podcast "How To Make A Life-Changing Decision: 5 Fundamentals That Aren’t Being Taught Anywhere".